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Where do we stand with dispute over garden fence?
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Sorry for the long windedness of the question…
We have new neighbours,who have just moved in,who seem intent on complaining about everything.We have lived in our property 21 years,when we did there was already a back garden fence in place,between our garden and theirs,all along the length of the garden.But obviously over time we have repaired it various times.It has always only been us who have ever maintained it,treat,paint etc,our old neighbours let us do the same to the side of the fence in their garden. One year when the weather was very bad,very bad winds,the fence was completely blown down.So we built a new fence(ranch style),in exactly the same place as the old fence that was there when we moved in.Now our new neighbours have informed us that we have 2 and a half inches of their garden,runnung the complete length of the garden,about 40-50foot(on our side of the fence)and could we take down the fence.Surely people cannot be so petty,as to quibble about such a small amount of garden.We have not done anything we are not supposed to,the fence as always been were it is,even before we ever moved in.Any commemts or adevice please.
The saga of our fence has just blown up again.All had been quiet till now,but we have decided to move(not because of our neighbours),back to the West Midlands.The house is on the market,and a new home bought already in the Midlands.We are more than likely expected to move out in 6 weeks(with the house still on the market,under the Estate Agents).
Three weeks back my mother and myself re-erected some new panels(ranch style) to the existing fence posts at the bottom of the garden,the old ones looked tatty,in exactly the same place as before,no posts etc were removed,just new panels,fixed to existing posts.
Whilst doing this our neighbour came out and said “oh,you need not bother to do that,because when you leave we will only be taking it down”.We said our estate agent had advised us to tidy up the fence panels etc and take photos,which we did.Nothing more was mentioned.
Now,yesterday,the neighbours called me outside and asked if they could take the fence down,then and there,because they did not want to do it when a new owner of the property took over,so as not to cause a dispute with them.
I obviously said no,they came out with their deeds and showed us the plans of the gardens.But i said we had ours and showed them ours,with a letter from our solicitors.This is what the solicitors said …
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You will see that the left hand boundry does not run exactlt straight and in fact it kinks out slightly on the left hand side.Your neighbours boundry should be exactly the same and therefore it would appear that your fence is in the correct place
The mother is the homeowner and the nieghbours grandmother is the homeowner there.We have said that both owners should get together to sort the problem out.But so far they have not bought up the subject again.
If we had over a foot of their garden,i can understand,but we are only quabbling over inches,is that that important?
If anything does come of the matter in the next few weeks before we move house,we can claim Prescriptive Rights then,for the fence having been in that location for over 20 years,maybe moving and inch this way or that over the time.
Just for the sake of argument,when we leave,and our house is unattended,well the estate agent and a aunt will have a key to keep a check on the property.What if the neighbours decide to take the fence down when we have gone,before anyone buys the property.Could we have them for anything?
Have booked an appointment at the solicitors for tomorrow,for a free consultation,neighbours still saying we should take down the fence.We have compared old photo’s from 21 years ago when we moved in and photo’s taken recently of the garden and fence.We cannot see any noticible difference in movement of the fence,as we said,maybe a few inches here or there,but certainly not 1 foot or more.
Our neighbours say their garden width is smaller than what it should be(whatever that may be)16 ft they say.We have just measured ours and it varies from top of the garden to bottom,from 14Ft 6in-15ft 5in(if you want to be particular)like our neighbours.
We could come back and say they have a few inches of ours,to be awkward.We have told our other neighbours,who are all good friends,and they have measured their gardens,obviously they all vary,one 18ft,one 15 ft.But they are certainly not quabbling over their respective sizes.They are nice people.
I have told the mother to refuse to pay for any solicitors.It is the neighbours who want to prove a point not us.If they want solicitors involved they should pay any monies incurred on our part,otherwise no.
We have been and are happy with the way the garden is,and have been for over 20 years,why should we pay to prove we are in the right.
There is an tree just planted ,in the old photos,which over the years has obviously grown.We h
There is an tree just planted ,in the old photos,which over the years has obviously grown.We have compared photos and the position of the fence in relation to the tree trunk,which cannot move.Scaled down in inches on the photo,the space between the 2 is 1in,but in Ft it is just under 3 ft.The tree trunk to the fence on the other side which also has been there since we moved in is 4 inches on the photo,but 12ft in reality.
So in other words the width of the garden now is 15ft give or take an inch.
Converting these sizes,we cannot see any noticable movement in the fence,if anything it seems like it has moved inwards and not outwards.
We just got back from the solicitors,explained everything that was going on etc,showed him old photos and new of fence taken yesterday etc.He seems to think we have nothing to worry about.He said he will write a letter on our behalf,stating that if they want to prove the fact we have a few inches of the garden that is theirs,the onus is on them to pay to g
et it proven,with their solicitors and surveyors etc.He says if they say anything just keep replying something like “you want to know,prove it,you pay for it,we do not have to do anything”.
Hopefully this may be the conclusion to the affair,well fingers crossed.
Just waiting for the fallout later,the owner of the home next door is coming round in 1 hour.
Oh,by the way,when the nan(owner)of other property rang last night,we got into a slanging match,did not swear etc,but heated discussion.She said she will get intouch with the council and put in a claim for unregistered land(meaning the few inches our side of the fence),and this will stop us from selling the house.Can she do anything as drastic as this.
Ive been conned and now he wants to take me to court?! Sorry its a long one?
Posted by: | CommentsI have paid 1400 pounds to have a business plan made up, via a friend of a friend, he told me originally he cud do it in a couple of days, but he’d do it cheaper for me, that normally he charged £700 a day! but would charge me £350p.day.
I had given him, all the numbers to crunch, and all the details of whole business idea. Next visit, he tells me he needs a couple more days, at further cost of £700!! Yes, I know at this point, im realising my costly mistake..all we did was ‘proofread’ what he’d basicly copied off my original idea’s plan, and yes, had done some number crunching, costs of investment needed, how much projected sales, but again from my basic figures..when it came to the third time, and he asked for anotha £700 I called him2 cancel the meet with story that I couldnt raise the 3rd £700 and we’d have to stop where we were, with apologies. He told me not to worry, to come to the meet anyway and that as id already paid so much, that he would take all future payments out of the investment once secured.. ..again, it was a day of long drawn out proof reading and correcting his secretarys typing errors, the plan hadnt changed much in essence from the first meeting!
All of this was done without written contracts and bad for me, without receipts!! Again, i realise my mistakes, but it was started on a very informal setting..at first..
Finally feeling im being had, i showed the only plan i had, with our red penned amendments, printed off his office documents (no spread sheets!!) to a business man I know..who promptly told me not to pay him a penny more, that it was totally amateur (which I had gathered and Im not exactly a prosperous business woman..yet! ) He told me to ask him to return my plans via email or disc.. so that then he cud go thru and help me.. wich I did, and it was then it turnd nasty!
He refused to send what he called the completed report, until I had paid £700 PLUS £1050 that had somewhere been ‘accrued’ and that it would take a further 3days work to complete and was reluctant to release it until it was finished. In all that totals £4,200 for a very amateur plan/report.. thats not even on a workable disc, to make amendments, with changes in the economical climate might make necessary. Not only that he is holding onto MY plans, my intellectual property im told.. which is if done correctly worth 5million euro’s a year when finished!!?? He could sell this idea to the highest bidder!! I feel so sick!
I have since on various advice ignored his 3further demands for cash.. but now he has twice sent me letter telling me he is going to call legal bailiffs onto me, in now 5days!!
I cant afford a lawyer/solicitor as he has wiped my surplus cash right up! Any advice..but without tellin me Ive been incredibly naieve, cos I know that.. my first lesson in the business world!! Sadly!
What can I do from here.. more than anything I want my plans back.. ( I have copies but thats not the point) and even if i got them back, he’s got a hard copy and its on his hard drive anyway.. I cant believe how we cant protect ourselves from this sorta thing. How does one trust Anyone anymore..
That wasnt meant to be in relationships.. it changed itself somehow.. sorry..
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Can I drop or stop the charges on my partner? For him to come back home?
Posted by: | CommentsHey people. Me & my partner have recently went through a real tough breaking point part of our relationship. We have recently made up & I really miss him and so does our son. Basically we had to go through court. And from what the judge said, he is not allowed to contact me directly or indirectly. He is not allowed to be within half a mile of my property, if he wants to see his child he would have to go through a solicitor & his curfew is 7pm to 7am. He has no bad record in his past. This is his only first offence. But me and our son miss him dearly.. It’s been 3/4weeks since we haven’t seen each other & it’s unbearable for both of us not to see each other. So please help! Is there anyway I can release him from his bail?
One thing.. He does not abuse me. He never has he respects women and me too much. He never will hit a woman. It was a friend. Got into an arguement and accidently pushed me. (it was just to get me out of the way) But no he has not ever abused me.
Elderly parent going into care – house taken to pay residential fees. (UK only)?
Posted by: | CommentsAfter living away for 20 years, I now live with my elderly widowed mother (financial reasons!) I also have a non-resident child from a non-marital relationship.
My mother is still sprightly, but is slowing down a lot.She owns her house outright, and I will be the sole beneficiary in her will. What we need to know is:
Since I have no other property to live at, have invested money in upgrading her property, and have been residing here for 4 years, what is the legal position should her health deteriorate to the point that I (and social services) am unable to provide sufficient care in the home environment and she has to go into some form of residential care?
Would my financial input to the property, my length of residence in the house, lack of alternative domicile, and requirement for decent accomodation for the time my child spends with me count for anything?
I dont want to pay a solicitor yet if there is no chance of keeping the house should the worst happen.
Any legal experts?
Putting the house into my name may not be an option, as the government has closed this loophole to stop people avoiding Inheritance Tax. This legal loophole closure may also affect transferring the house to avoid losing it for nursing care costs.
What can landlord do if I terminate the contract and move out with his agreement?
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As questioned. We’re foreign students. Our contract didn’t cite that we have to pay whole rent of contract period if we move out before that. I was told that if there’s no such clause, then i may only lose the deposit. Is that correct? If he really takes us to court, what’s the worst thing I might face? Our landlord is a solicitor and I’m worried that he might take actions. The reason of moving out is because the house is overwhelming bed bugs n’ my flatmate is very sensitive to insect bites. Though pest controller came, concil environment adviser told us the life cycle is a year and they won’t gurantee bed bugs will be killed all and they might come back again. Had asked concil home visitor write a note to prove that our property is not fit to habitate but he said b/c it’s bed bugs so they can’t provide us such doc. Don’t know why. Since landlord refused to change carpet and old furniture which we found lots of bed bugs, we decided to move out. Can anyone help with solutions? Thanks
We tried everything… uni’s student adviser&solicitor, got medical certificate, talked&write to the landlord. It’s useless when it’s a unreasonable landlord. He gave us 20 ponds for whole house laundry and said should be enough for collect&service laundry! Gosh, my wife even had to take one week antibiotics tablets and that cost 1/3 money he gave us. We think he thinks we’re international students and not good in English so he could take some advantage from us.
If we move out and he doesn’t have our forwarding address, what can he do to us? Our landlord only got our passport number and full name. Will we have any problem when going back home country or travel out of UK? Will we be stopped at custom if we have court record? We’re all very tired spending lots of time looking for legal advice and tell us do this and what. Even we done so much, the landlord still refused us to move out and so we decided no matter how he treaten us, we gonna move out by next week!
Conveyancing in Sheffield?
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Am looking for a conveyancer to do the legal work for a sale and purchase of properties in Sheffield/Doncaster. Conveyancers seem a lot cheaper than going via a solicitor, but I’ve only used a solicitor in the past.
Has anyone used one? Better or worse than going via a solicitor? Can anyone recommend one?
Solicitor went bust. This is the second solicitor I have used that went bad. No deeds again for my property after moving. this is a year down the line. Should the mortgage company not take some responsibility for this and pay compensation for not following up on actaully securing the deeds into their possession. I am now unable to move house or re-mortgage as there are no deeds.
marriage breakdown – joint mortgage?
Posted by: | Commentsmy friend has left his wife after 10 years of marriage a couple of months ago. to cut a long story short, he wasn’t happy anymore. she was very controlling in that she wanted all of his time to be spent with her – it was ok to socialise with her friends as a couple, but his friends were dropped and his visits to his family were rare (he’s from a close family, she isn’t). he woke up and realised one day that he didn’t want to be in that relationship anymore – he has been 100% honest with her and moved back in with his parents. she had never had much in her life before as her ex took everything and left her with nothing. my friend felt bad enough leaving so said that she can have all of the contents in the house and can have the house if she wants – he was happy to leave his name on the mortgage for the forseeable future as if he took it off, it would mean she would have to have new mortgage and theirs is so low at the moment it would be stupid to lose that deal. her credit was not that good so they had credit in his name and both agreed after the split that they would both pay it equally. anyway, since splitting, he’s been out for a drink with a girl (nothing serious but hes just trying to get a life back) and his ex has heard about it on the grapevine and reacted very badly to it, has now stopped paying her share of the debts. she knows that legally it’s in his name so there is nothing he can do about it. he’s a student as he started a 4 year course in september and has minimal income i.e. student loan and cannot afford to shoulder all of the payments of the debt – which she knows all too well.
she refuses to allow him access to the property so he can’t get a lot of his stuff. she has told her solicitor that she is scared of my friend (he’s not got a violent bone in his body and she knows that) and is looking to get an injunction against him. the income he has is so low that i can’t see the debt companies agreeing to the rate that he can afford to pay them back. she won’t sell the property and refuses to change the mortgage, so she’s living in the house with a low mortgage laughing while my friend is stuck with all their debts (a large chunk of them accumilated by her before they married, they consolidated them in his name). she will not negotiate and will not reason. other than going bankrupt to get is name off the mortgage, what can he do? what are his rights with regard to this..? he doesn’t live there, he doesn’t want the house, she can have it, he wants to be away from her now but she’s blocking him. he wants to sell up (no equity in house so no money in it, just to tie everything up and be gone from her) or have his name removed, she won’t do it. what next?? is he going to have this for the rest of his life?!?1
Help with divorce petition?
Posted by: | CommentsMy partner has received a Petition for Divorce from his ex wife, she cheated on him just after 1 year of marriage, so they separated and about 2 years later we moved in together, it is now 5 years since their separation, they had no children. I have 2 children that both myself and my partner support although he isn’t their birth dad. Anyway she is still with the guy that she committed adultery with and made it clear she wanted a divorce at no cost to my partner, the petition has come through and it seems like she is going to try and get financial gain from my partner. They already sold the house when separated and the proceeds were split 50/50 as were any items from the house, if anything my partner came away worse off with about £15,000 of debts but the problem was he had the loan through a family member with no legal contract. With that debt and the fact that my partner’s self employed business failed last year and he was out of work for a while and had to take a 50% paycut when accepting a full time employed job we are now £35,000 in debt as a couple, unfortunately the legalaid scheme only takes income into account so we don’t qualify for help and we don’t know what to do as havn’t got any money to pay for a solicitor, we really don’t want to add to our £35K debt … we have struggled so much in the last year not to go bankrupt and to keep our house and so far we have succeeded and have been slowly paying back our debts … its now such a kick in the teeth that this has come up and we don’t know what to do. We don’t understand what the petition means so any advice on it would be helpful, he is supposed to have it signed and back at the courts by the weekend. The section we are concerned about is the ‘Prayer’ it states under ‘Ancillary Relief’ for the petitioner (his ex) – an order for maintenance pending suit – a periodical payments order – a secured provision order – a lump sum order – a property adjustment order – an order under section 24B, 25B or 25C of the Act of 1973 (pension sharing/attachment order) I’ve been told by others that have had divorces that if she accepted everything had been finalised financially it would be stated in the petition. So is she lying to us in person and does this divorce look like she is looking for money from us?
There was no contract drawn up at time of separation, although I did see a letter after they sold the house from the solicitors saying the proceeds from the sale money had been split in final settlement so I’m praying we can get a copy from the solicitors as I’ve searched for it and can’t locate it (we’ve moved house since I saw it) They never planned to have children so she worked full time whilst they were married, so just hoping there isn’t much she can claim for with those circumstances. Will they take our debts into consideration whilst deciding whether to award her with anything? Surely if its likely to send us bankrupt and leave us & 2 children homeless it wouldn’t be in the courts interest to award her anything.
uk book published germany – i need advice urgently?
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i won a millenium award to write a short book about caring for someone with alzheimers disease. something i did for my mother for four years -with no support. i published the book myself & it has done quite well. a german couple i met bought the book & asked me if they could translate it into german. i said yes, not really thinking they would necessarily do it. recently they e-mailed to say they spent all summer translating it & sent me a rough copy (they live in germany). i cant afford to spend good money after bad e.g. if i go to costly solicitors & then the german people say there is no market for my book& agents are almost impossible to get. i am worried about loosing my copyright.i did send them an e-mail – they replied agreeing the copyright & intellectual property is mine. they own a large computer company in germany & i dont want to find my book has gone worldwide & i dont profit from it. they did mention possibly 40/50% to bookshops 40% to them & 10% me but no contract yet..
Please I am desperate for help with my Mother in law from hell?
Posted by: | CommentsMy M I L let us move into her investment property 18 months ago which had always been unoccupied.This meant really cheap rent but moving an hour away.
Anyway cut a really long story short she tried to scam money out of us when my fiances father suddenly passed away last year leaving him an inheritance.She has a lot of money and my partner was actually quite shocked and hurt when he realised what she was trying to do.Especially considering he had given her a lump sum of money purely out of generosity considering she had given us a place to stay even if it was ages away from our friends and loved ones.
He confronted her about it and she denied it.
2 weeks later I was at home caring for our toddler (and 38 weeks pregnant)when an eviction notice through a solicitors comes under the door!Anyway we have moved now and i am soooo much happier!but she has started trying to cause all sorts of trouble i really can’t believe he once called this women ‘mother’.First she tells his brother that she is calling the police over furniture we stole.I don’t really care about that because I have the reciepts with my bank card number as proof of purchase so she will look like an idiot.
She has turned our former neighbours against us and being so secluded while my partner was at work I actually used to spend a lot of time there and they couldnt stand her.
Its gotten so bad that when we went back up to the house to collect some mail that they actually called the cops to report suspicious activity ha our car was parked outside and they saw us get out!Obviously the police thought it was all one big mix up and told us that next door had just been concerned!anyway i can’t believe those traitors i am really hurt and although I believe in karma I would love some advice on how to get back at my evil mother in law she is a manipulitive liar eg who else would buy scales for you 22 days after having your first child and then tell everyone how much you really wanted them!
Also any ideas for the neighbours ,i know she has dobbed a couple of her ‘friends’ in before to the authorities to make herself feel like a better person was thinking about sending them an anonymous letter to let them know what sort of a friend she is.
Any help would be much apprieciated i just want to give them a bit of a sting then move on with my life
Property investment or savings?
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Just had a bad divorce settlement (he could afford a good solicitor) so the money I have needs to be invested for my pension/old age. Any hints on how to go about it and what to look out for or is it better to just put it into a savings account? I cant afford anything above £150,000 and I dont have technical d-i-y skills…
I am trying to help a chinese friend that has lost money in a property sydndicate?
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this is a question for australian readers ,a friend of mine who has bad english has lost money in a failed property syndicate called “brandsmart riverbank syndicate ” situated in parramatta nsw , does any one out there have any info ?? maybe a prospectus ?? it was opened in approx 2004 , it was one of the many financial scams created by so called “professional financial planners ” here in australia , coming from china she thought that we ( the west ) had proper rules and guidelines regarding taking and investing peoples monies ,and yes !! she has spent many hours calling the appropriate authorities/people / agents / all of whom just “fob “her off ,and refuse to give her any details of her investment unfortunately she does not have thousands of dollars to pay a lazy solicitor for nothing , any help would be good .ty
Writ of possession?
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I have just been advised by my bank that they have instructed solicitors to lodge a writ of possession on my property. After a year of financial difficulties due to sickness, interest hikes and other things, my partner and I are finally managing to get back on our feet. I’ve tried to explain this to the bank but to no avail. What will happen now and is there anyway that I can fix this? I now have bad credit and can’t get a loan. Please give me some advise.
We live in a locked secure condo building. This is private property, however we still get the door to door solicitors who weazel their way in our buidling.. worse we have had thefts ect. Recent CCTV has helped deter this.
One of the biggest issues our buidling has if someone knocks on the front door many people would just let them in.. now asking who they are here for etc. I was running to work late one morning. This lady knocked on the front door lobby as I was leaving. I asked her if she lived her she said NO. I asked who is she here to see? She couldn’t tell me. I told her if you can’t answer either of those questions you don’t belong in my buidling and walked away. I caught my neighbor letting this woman in no sooner than me pulling out of the locked drive way. I pulled over and said.. I did not just see you let that woman in.. she said.. oh my son did it. I told her you are the adult here. That was a stranger who did not konw who she was here to see, nor did she live here. I said i’t becuase of people like you that stuff is getting ripped off… think about it!
it anymore he left the house in such bad repair that it cost me and my family nearly 10,grand to make it habitable for me and my kids i have been paying mortgage now for four years with no help from him but he says that if i sell the house he wants his half of profit to go to his kids i would like to sell as the area is terrible but if i give the kids his half i wont beable to buy another property due to lack of funds also he didnt pay anything towards the house repair and i feel i will be left out of pocket how can i get round this as i cant afford a solicitor and cant get a mortgage on my wages alone he also does not pay me any maintenance for the kids we lived together there for 10 yrs he had it for 3 yrs alone while i moved out but i have now had it alone for 4 years
House Repossesion * Shortfalls * If a house was repossed over 6 years ago?
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If a property was reposssed and a force sale has taken place and a shortfall of £26000 has occured.The company has been in contact so the 6/12 year rule does not apply The Halifax have registered a CCj for the above amount. If a new purchase was to take place would halifax be able to place a second or worse still a first charge over the new property purchase? Halifax would be informed by the solicitor once he checks the repossesion search and will have a duty to inform the Halifax.
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Yes I understand it stays with the person not property but if the person who owes the money tries to purchase another property can Halifax place a charge on the property
Bad divorce 2002 that only ex wanted. She turned children against me with her mum and step father.If I had done that I would have been villified but its okay for a woman to treat a man like that. Solicitors say they can’t do anything,so does Lord Chancellor and barrister. My MP says I am unusual wanting to care for my kids when his experience is that all men walk away from their children. I wrote to President Blair who did not want to know but passed me from one department to another and still no one could or would help. Women fought for centuries for equality and rightly so. Why will women not give men equality with our children when we are divorced. They are our children too. She got house, contents, my personal property, photographs, videos of children and will not even give me copies.She lied on oath to get the divorce. If women want equality surely they should give us equality and when we divorce we should share them.Before you ask YES I HAVE ALWAYS PAID CHILD SUPPORT FOR THEM
Custody Battle – Similar Situation?
Posted by: | CommentsI split with my partner August 2008 because he was violent to me, and whilst i was holding my 3 month old Daughter too. I went straight to a solicitor and sought (and got) a non-molestation order, an occupation order and a prohibited steps order. My Daughter’s father did not see her for further month as i was told to avoid any contact with him until contact had been agreed in court. During this time, he made a point of breaking the non-molestation order, as did his mother and sister.
He began seeing her at a contact centre for an hour a week September 2008, the stand-in Judge then decided (along with a jumped up social worker who’s never dealt with kids before) that he should have her for 4 hours at a time weekly, unsupervised, after only 6 weeks (even though he had threatened to take her off me previously). The social worker CHOSE to disregard the fact that he had messed up every contact session at the contact centre, and his mother had phoned social services and made an allegation which was later proved to be just that! Again, on these contact visits, he continued to mess up, not getting the right food or the right size nappies (even though i had already told him through solicitors).
Back in court again, December 2008 it was agreed that her father then got contact twice weekly for a whole day at a time. My daughter’s behaviour started to change and she became more unsettled. I raised yet more concerns in court, including the fact that he made a deliberate effort to undermine me, chose to feed my daughter baby food although i had already weaned her and refused to stick to her routine. Yet again, i was ignored, the social worker stood her ground and insisted that, with all these concerns, he should still have my ONE YEAR OLD daughter for a whole weekend a time, even though she had never been away from me for one night before, and with all my concerns.
The court ruled that he have her one night a week (for 6 contact weeks) and then onto one night a week for 3 weeks of the month and a whole weekend on the 4th week.
Personally, i find this ridiculous anyway, as she is only one year old! The concerns have got worse, he is now making all kinds of ridiculous comments. He tried telling me that i should not dry her hair although she has extremely long hair for her age and that would mean she went to bed with wet hair. He told me that the shoes i had measured for her at Clarks were too small (the week i got them).
Now, to explain my concerns:
Her father is 23 years of age; still living with his parents; still refusing to get a job; is not training towards any job; has found himself another girlfriend who previously took drugs, now has her own child and is currently in a womens refuge; he does not pay ANY child maintenance and never has; he insists on having my daughter overnight and yet leaves her with his mother so he can go out. He has already admitted to Social Services that he was depressed and attempted to kill himself on more than one occasion, as well as having cut marks up and down his arms.
Me: I am 17 years of age, live on my own in a private rented property, have an 18 year old boyfriend who is currently training as a plasterer. I have previously studied accountancy at college but had to drop out just before my exam because of being pregnant. I am now studying Law from home as well as bringing up my daughter. I have my full family’s support as well as my boyfriend’s family. And he contributes to my daughter’s upbringing more than her father.
Could anybody please tell me if they think i’m being unreasonable by being worried and wondering if the social worker ACTUALLY did her job properly?